View Full Version : Pro and Cons of never being married?
Kahuna
09-17-2005, 08:23 PM
I turning 36 this Sunday and I have never been married, not ever close. When I am asked why, I can't think of an answer. Most of my friends are married and some of them a few times. The ones that are still married have moments of happyness, but there seems to be a lot of other stuff that they have to wade through to get there. But I guess they get to go through everything together and raise great kids and that makes up for everthing they have to go through worth it. Being single is not bad ether, I have the freedom to figure out what life is about in my own time(also get a another boat). I guess what I am saying just be happy where you are and where you are going in life. Sorry the wax on wax off but have not been to the river in a couple months. :hammerhea
I just thought of an answer:
I still am trying to find a great woman that can launch a boat and encourage me to buy bigger and better toys.
All right I am off to go live the single life. :crossx:
Any thoughts?
blackcloud75
09-17-2005, 08:28 PM
Somewhere I read that people who don't get married or have kids live longer..why?
Brooski
09-17-2005, 08:28 PM
Same boat here (no pun intended), and a little older than you. But, my girlfriend was raised around boats, and is friggin awesome at backing the trailer down the ramp, loading the boat, operating the boat, and pulling the boat or 5th wheel. She kicks butt. Sometimes I regret not getting hitched younger, but you have to go with what life presents to you. Enjoy each day like you may not be able to do it again. You never know what tomorrow has in store.....
Brooski
09-17-2005, 08:29 PM
Somewhere I read that people who don't get married or have kids live longer..why?
Less stress.....
Hard to find someone without baggage at your age. My friend is 38 years and wants to settle down. Tired of banging the young ones, can't find any his age without some pyscho ex always lurking around.
He finally finds *the one*. 7 month relationship, fiancee, 32, good looking, nice bod......but sez parents dead, no other family members, always dodged questions (and oh yeah, best part, was gonna inherit millions). the alarms really went off when some guy called my friend and asked what he was doing with his wife.
Wife?
yup the guy sez, wife with 4 kids; two with me, two from two other guys.
So he asked me to check her out.....still married, abandoned her family, 4 kids, warrants, repossessions, stripper.......
Tuff world out there...
uvindex
09-17-2005, 09:11 PM
When I am asked why, I can't think of an answer.
Any thoughts?Yes. When people ask you "why have you never married?" it assumes that everyone should be married. In other words, the fact that they ask the question at all is a little presumptous and rude.
Although I'm married, there's definitely nothing wrong with being unmarried -- even for your whole life if that's your choice. Seriously, only get married if you want to. :)
Good luck!
Craig
09-18-2005, 06:11 AM
Well, I can add some input here ;) Before I met T I would hear the same questions about not being married. Sometimes I wished I'd been married when I was 19 and got diviorced shortly after. Then I could have said I was married when I was young, and eveyone understands. I fullfilled my social commitment! I waited until I was 42 to get hitched. Prior to the I had been engaged a few times but never went further than that. Did eventually meet a girl with a decent head on her shoulders and had only been married once before for 14 months. Never had any kids. So I guess I just waited for the right one to come along. Don't rush into anything. Don't be pressured :D
Craig
I turning 36 this Sunday and I have never been married, not ever close. When I am asked why, I can't think of an answer. Most of my friends are married and some of them a few times. The ones that are still married have moments of happyness, but there seems to be a lot of other stuff that they have to wade through to get there. But I guess they get to go through everything together and raise great kids and that makes up for everthing they have to go through worth it. Being single is not bad ether, I have the freedom to figure out what life is about in my own time(also get a another boat). I guess what I am saying just be happy where you are and where you are going in life. Sorry the wax on wax off but have not been to the river in a couple months. :hammerhea
I just thought of an answer:
I still am trying to find a great woman that can launch a boat and encourage me to buy bigger and better toys.
All right I am off to go live the single life. :crossx:
Any thoughts?
I can launch the boat.. and I like big things :supp: :D
91nordic29
09-18-2005, 06:24 AM
dont pressure yourself and dont go lookin'. i know that it sounds cliche but there is a reason for that. it's true. you dont FIND love; it finds you. and when you least expect it.
PS-- i am pretty crappy at backin' the trailer down but ya know what, i keep tryin' and i always "GETTERDONE" and that is a big plus.
dont worry.
someone once asked me why we didnt have children. i really was kinda taken aback. didnt really have an answer, no physical problems or anything, just a personal decision. that person said that we were "selfish". i still dont understand that. :confused:
91nordic29
09-18-2005, 06:30 AM
Well, I can add some input here ;) Before I met T I would hear the same questions about not being married. Sometimes I wished I'd been married when I was 19 and got diviorced shortly after. Then I could have said I was married when I was young, and eveyone understands. I fullfilled my social commitment! I waited until I was 42 to get hitched. Prior to the I had been engaged a few times but never went further than that. Did eventually meet a girl with a decent head on her shoulders and had only been married once before for 14 months. Never had any kids. So I guess I just waited for the right one to come along. Don't rush into anything. Don't be pressured :D
Craig
can i hear an amen, brotha!!?
yet another testimonial from a person in our age group. we didnt get this far and learn nothin. :D
76ANTHONY
09-18-2005, 06:32 AM
LET ME TELL YOU BUDDY, SHE'LL FIND YOU. IM 37 AND JUST GOT TOGETHER WITH A WOMEAN THAT HAS A 3 YEAR OLD BOY. SHE DOES EVERYTHING FOR ME, MAN AM I LUCKY, SHE COOKS SHE CLEANS AND SHE BACKS ME IN WHATEVER I WANT TO DO, KINDA ODD THOUGH, IN A YEAR WE HAVE HAD NOT ONE ARGUEMENT. I WAS REALLY NOT LOOKIN WHEN I FOUND HER. I THINK THERE IS SOMEONE FOR EVERYONE AND IF YOU DONT FIND THAT PERSON, BE HAPPY ANYWAY. JUST MY .02, BUT DO WHAT YOU DO AND FEEL HAPPY YOU WAKE UP EVERYDAY.... :idea: :clover:
76ANTHONY
09-18-2005, 06:33 AM
sorry about the caps, i wasent yelling. :D
91nordic29
09-18-2005, 06:34 AM
I can launch the boat.. and I like big things :supp: :D
bre! when are you comin' to phoenix for a visit? ya know the air fares are lower than gas now. we' all love to have you visit. :cool:
91nordic29
09-18-2005, 06:39 AM
I WAS REALLY NOT LOOKIN WHEN I FOUND HER.
see? that is the key. if you do what youve always done, you'll get what you 've always got (sl)i do take exception to her doing everything for you but i am sure that you didnt mean it that way. if'in ya did, dont get too attached. ;)
76ANTHONY
09-18-2005, 06:42 AM
oh i guess i made that sound bad, she does what she likes to do and it seems to fit what i like. 90% of the time its fun and the other ten percent is serious. shes alot younger than i am, but shes all grown up to me :D :D
and i never get too attached :D
NashvilleBound
09-18-2005, 06:43 AM
Are you happy? If you dont feel like your missing a part of your life you good. Everyones different. Me, as much as I would never(jk) tell my wife.... I would be lost without her. She is the total package. Now...if any of you dorks tell her this the pain will be intense...;) You know who you are.....
76ANTHONY
09-18-2005, 06:46 AM
:D :D :D :D :D :sqeyes: now thats funny.....
FHI-prez
09-18-2005, 06:56 AM
I have probably the perfect woman (for me), but for some dumb reason I still don't want to be married. I have never been married, but I do look at all my friends that are married and NONE of them are happier than I am. It seems most of them bitch about their spouse in one breath, then can't figure out why I don't want to get married in the next breath. I'm not a "player" or cheater, I'm just happy with the way things are. It seems that everything changes once two people tie the knot, some of the changes seem good, some seem bad, seems like a total wash to me.
76ANTHONY
09-18-2005, 07:09 AM
do you need a piece of paper to be happy, NO, i dont im not married but i have been, and its not what its cranked up to be, if your happy stay happy. the only piece of paper that makes me happy is my paycheck :D :D :D :devil:
NashvilleBound
09-18-2005, 07:54 AM
do you need a piece of paper to be happy, NO, i dont im not married but i have been, and its not what its cranked up to be, if your happy stay happy. the only piece of paper that makes me happy is my paycheck :D :D :D :devil:
Interesting....the only thing that makes you happy is money...carefull for with what you ask for.... or am I reading too far into that? :D :D
76ANTHONY
09-18-2005, 08:10 AM
too far into it. i said the only piece of paper that makes me happy is my paycheck, i didnt say the ony thing is my paycheck. im very simple i dont need money to make me happy, i am happy :smile: :rollside:
I have three female friends all close to 40 years old. None of them have ever been married.
At this point in life, they are all successful. All three own their own business. One has her own boat and a lake house. They all say no way to marriage now. Like others have said, all people that age have baggage.
Why mess with a good thing? You don't need a spouse to be considered a whole human being.
IMPATIENT 1
09-18-2005, 08:35 AM
i got married at 21. 3 kids by 25(8yr old princess,twin 5yr old wreckn crew)
i have a nice house,alittle land,money in the bank.if i was single, i'd have nothing to show for my life so far.my family is everything to me,my support.
being single would be fun, but lonely after knowing what i have.
IMPATIENT 1
09-18-2005, 08:40 AM
and what would all the things a person wants to accumulate in life worth if you don't have someone to share it with?my favorite part of the normal work week is picking my daughter up from school,watching her be herself before she notices i'm there.life's good so far! :clover:
ahhell
09-18-2005, 08:45 AM
You got to do whats right for you, if youre happy single then so be it. Im very happy married, wife says i have a think free life, she does most everything around the house...over 20 years married...dont know what id do without her
well i got a couple ideas :wink:
I also agree with whats been said about searching for the right one, you cant, it just gotta happen
Debbolas
09-18-2005, 08:51 AM
You got to do whats right for you, if youre happy single then so be it. Im very happy married, wife says i have a think free life, she does most everything around the house...over 20 years married...dont know what id do without her
well i got a couple ideas :wink:
I also agree with whats been said about searching for the right one, you cant, it just gotta happen
(Did she hit you again?)
lol :D
Forkin' Crazy
09-18-2005, 09:16 AM
Any thoughts?
Just consider this: A woman will marry a man thinking she can change him. A man will marry a woman thinking she will never change.
:smile:
ahhell
09-18-2005, 09:34 AM
(Did she hit you again?)
lol :D
:D NO....i just dont let her read my posts anymore :rolleyes:
SummitKarl
09-18-2005, 10:25 AM
Well, I can add some input here ;) Before I met T I would hear the same questions about not being married. Sometimes I wished I'd been married when I was 19 and got diviorced shortly after. Then I could have said I was married when I was young, and eveyone understands. I fullfilled my social commitment! I waited until I was 42 to get hitched. Prior to the I had been engaged a few times but never went further than that. Did eventually meet a girl with a decent head on her shoulders and had only been married once before for 14 months. Never had any kids. So I guess I just waited for the right one to come along. Don't rush into anything. Don't be pressured :D
Craig
whew............ I feel better now
Amen, to that
I am glad I have taken the time (42yrs) to "GET MY DUCKS IN A ROW" First, now I know EXACTLY!! who I am looking for.....and I THINK!!! I Have found her :wink: "time will tell".. so take things easy and don't let peer pressure from ANYONE influance you.....and from someone that has been Clinically DEAD (twice- from auto accidents) be thankfull for everyday, for tomorrow may never come :)
Kilrtoy
09-18-2005, 10:50 AM
Cons , You only get to slep with one woman......
and nothing kills a sex drive like WEDDING CAKE.,......
My Man's Sportin' Wood
09-18-2005, 10:52 AM
Cons , You only get to slep with one woman......
and nothing kills a sex drive like WEDDING CAKE.,......
You are so full of crap. :D
What kills a sex drive is children. :devil:
my21advantage
09-18-2005, 10:53 AM
Damn, life is rough being single.....
Kilrtoy
09-18-2005, 10:56 AM
You are so full of crap. :D
What kills a sex drive is children. :devil:
That is just the third excuse women use.
Shall i continue,
My nails arent dry,
I just did my hair
The cat is watching us
:skull:
my21advantage
09-18-2005, 11:01 AM
That is just the third excuse women use.
Shall i continue,
My nails arent dry,
I just did my hair
The cat is watching us
:skull:
All bitter parties right this way
:cry:
Kahuna
09-18-2005, 11:05 AM
I can launch the boat.. and I like big things :supp: :D
The cutest woman on the boards and she can launch a boat, I think am in love. :p
Thanks for all the responces, have fun I am off to the USC game to watch a little ass kicking. :crossx:
Ryphraph
09-18-2005, 11:24 AM
Hang in there Kahuna!
What are you doing for your B-day tomorrow? I forgot it was so soon.
PS. Marissa was asking about you...
Ryph
Marriage is a wonderful institution, as long as you don't mind living in an institution.
Groucho Marks
Lots of people in bad marriages blame "marriage" as the problem, not their ability to pick crappy spouses.
My Man's Sportin' Wood
09-18-2005, 11:38 AM
That is just the third excuse women use.
Shall i continue,
My nails arent dry,
I just did my hair
The cat is watching us
:skull:
Nails. . . they'll be dry in ten minutes
Hair. . . the FFL (freshly f**ked look) is sexy
Cat. . . kick the damn thing out of the room! Lock it in the dryer :D
Sorry you hear those excuses :D
I was actually refering to not wanting more children is why the drive might be gone (at least until surgically taken care of :wink: )
my21advantage
09-18-2005, 12:19 PM
The #1 cause of divorce is marriage
The #1 cause of divorce is marriage
True dat. Just like birth is the cause of death. No one has died that hasn't been born. :D
throwerb
09-18-2005, 02:47 PM
Are you happy? If you dont feel like your missing a part of your life you good. Everyones different. Me, as much as I would never(jk) tell my wife.... I would be lost without her. She is the total package. Now...if any of you dorks tell her this the pain will be intense...;) You know who you are.....
:D ;)
Hard to find someone without baggage at your age. My friend is 38 years and wants to settle down. Tired of banging the young ones, can't find any his age without some pyscho ex always lurking around.
He finally finds *the one*. 7 month relationship, fiancee, 32, good looking, nice bod......but sez parents dead, no other family members, always dodged questions (and oh yeah, best part, was gonna inherit millions). the alarms really went off when some guy called my friend and asked what he was doing with his wife.
Wife?
yup the guy sez, wife with 4 kids; two with me, two from two other guys.
So he asked me to check her out.....still married, abandoned her family, 4 kids, warrants, repossessions, stripper.......
Tuff world out there...
A stripper..... with baggage....?...... :D
NashvilleBound
09-18-2005, 03:42 PM
:D ;)
LMAO...yes Mr Dork...this includes you. :D
Boy Named Sue
09-18-2005, 03:46 PM
I liked being married. Its kinda nice to bang any tramp in town too. If I had to choose, I'd be married. But its a close one. OK I like clean clothes.
Kahuna
09-19-2005, 10:55 AM
Well I am 36 now, so I think I need to get myself a birthday present. :idea:
How about a 26 Kachina Drone with a 525! :cool:
Mrs.Racer277
09-19-2005, 11:15 AM
Well I am 36 now, so I think I need to get myself a birthday present. :idea:
How about a 26 Kachina Drone with a 525! :cool:
Happy Birthday!! :D
my21advantage
09-19-2005, 11:43 AM
Well I am 36 now, so I think I need to get myself a birthday present. :idea:
How about a 26 Kachina Drone with a 525! :cool:
LIVE IT UP
WaterBox
09-20-2005, 07:49 AM
Just consider this: A woman will marry a man thinking she can change him. A man will marry a woman thinking she will never change.
:smile:
Good point. And why should a relaitionship be held hostage by a signature on a piece of paper?? :2purples:
Havasu_Dreamin
09-20-2005, 07:58 AM
34 and never married but I was engaged.
Well, I can add some input here ;) Before I met T I would hear the same questions about not being married. Sometimes I wished I'd been married when I was 19 and got diviorced shortly after. Then I could have said I was married when I was young, and eveyone understands. I fullfilled my social commitment! I waited until I was 42 to get hitched. Prior to the I had been engaged a few times but never went further than that. Did eventually meet a girl with a decent head on her shoulders and had only been married once before for 14 months. Never had any kids. So I guess I just waited for the right one to come along. Don't rush into anything. Don't be pressured :D
Craig
42?
Damn, did you need to get some type of special permit or something?
;) Say hi to the gang and T
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