My friend found out

[chub]

His 15 year old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend yesterday. He is devastated. I don't know what to say to him?

[riverbound]

Tell him to get her on BC ASAP!!!!

[Tom Brown]

His 15 year old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend yesterday. He is devastated. I don't know what to say to him?
I'd tell him to be an adult, treat her with respect... regardless of how he decides to handle it... and suggest he give her some condoms.
... because throwing a hissy-fit sure as hell isn't going to stop it.

[Parker Dreamin]

He needs to talk to her about protection and to let her know that it is okay, time for the birds and the bees.
It was going to happen sooner or later.... :mad:

[LAFD]

Tell him to get her on BC ASAP!!!!
what he said. and tell him to be cool about it cause grounding her and punishing her aint gunna do nuthin there still gunna find a way to screw.

[Cole Trickle]

She held out 1-2 years longer than most.
Stuff like that is tough on a dad but he needs to handle it wisely and make sure she knows how to protect herself.
He also needs to take the kid for a long ride into the dessert and let him know that he is serious about people treating his daughter with respect, and in the event she gets preggers before marriage show him the spot where you could barry him without anybody ever knowing. :crossx: ;)

[slink]

His 15 year old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend yesterday. He is devastated. I don't know what to say to him?
Is the BF a juvenile as well ?

[NOTALENT]

like everyone else said. Talk to her and let her know even though he doesnt agree with it, it's her life. Inform her about BC, Condoms, The morning after pill (Awesome Product), Safe sex etc...If he get's mad the more she will do it.
Good Luck To Him...
And like coletrickle said, she did have a late start. These day's it's sad seeing these kid's doing this and having kid's.

[Magic34]

I'd kill them both.

[LAFD]

I'd kill them both.
if he doesnt mind goin to jail this would also be a good route.

[FREIND OF AA AND TA]

My friend is going through the same thing! Funny how he has been drinking a lot more. Thank God I have boys. I can't look at her in the face without wanting to barf! I was banging chicks way before that age and thought it was perfectly normal.
Oh well in some countries people are married with kids at that age.

[MAINEVENT]

I'd kill them both.
What he said ^^^^^^^ :crossx:

[wsuwrhr]

if he doesnt mind goin to jail this would also be a good route.
There is always that
Brian

[wsuwrhr]

Hopefully he didn't "find out" by opening a door.
Brian

[Sleek-Jet]

Hopefully he didn't "find out" by opening a door.
Brian
My sentiments exactly...
Condoms for him, BC for her, a good talk with both...

[LAFD]

does the b/f parents know? if not than the dad can use that against him and make him do things for him like wash the truck or mow the lawn take out the trash. what no than im gunna tell you parents. hahaha.

[termiteguy]

does the b/f parents know? if not than the dad can use that against him and make him do things for him like wash the truck or mow the lawn take out the trash. what no than im gunna tell you parents. hahaha.
NOW THAT A GOOD PLAN

[lucky]

HAVE A WORD WITH THE BOYFRIEND ... hEY KID , JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW WHAT EVER YOU DO TO MY DAUGHTER , i DO TO YOU ..... SHOULD END IT RIGHT THERE !!!!
PS I DREAD THE DAY THIS HAPPENS TO ME -- --- I was 13 and very active -- now i look at my tweelve year old and don't want to let her out of my sight --lol :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

[deltarat]

His 15 year old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend yesterday. He is devastated. I don't know what to say to him?
I think the thing to remember is that at 15 he was more than likely trying to do the same thing. There for what he needs to do is explain to his daughter how a young boy feels and thinks, and what he is useing her for and that what she will get out of it is nothing. Next he needs to talk to her about protection and stuff. I also have a daughter and I can honestly say that everything I just said will probably be the farthest thing from my mind when I find out that my baby girl is haveing sex. So maybe someone here can redirect me to this thread when I post how I am going to kill the kid who is haveing sex with my daughter in a few years. Thanks in advance for helping me stay out of jail!

[SummitKarl]

how about the good old days
Chasity belt :crossx: :)
followed by a good old "SWITCH" whipping
oh yea... kick the boy in the junk :crossx:

[LAFD]

[QUOTE=lucky]HAVE A WORD WITH THE BOYFRIEND ... hEY KID , JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW WHAT EVER YOU DO TO MY DAUGHTER , i DO TO YOU ..... SHOULD END IT RIGHT THERE !!!!
this right here would no doubt scare the kid cause the kid would be thinking damn that might hurt if he did what i did to his daughter. :crossx:

[Kim Hanson]

Just say I have a culvert with your name on it asswipe, would you like to try it on for size maybe...........( . )( . )............... :crossx:

[Jbb]

Just say I have a culvert with your name on it asswipe, would you like to try it on for size maybe...........( . )( . )............... :crossx:
!@#!@#$#$%%^^&&%^&*&(*#$#$#@#$$%%^#%^&*^$%#$
lol
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[Kim Hanson]

!@#!@#$#$%%^^&&%^&*&(*#$#$#@#$$%%^#%^&*^$%#$
lol
http://www2.***boat.com/forums/customavatars/avatar2518_8.gif
Is that cyber chat Brian :p .......( . )( . )......

[topless]

I have always told my 16 year old daughter that if she is going to have sex, to talk to me first so she could at least be safe about it. I ask her about once a month about it and since she tells me everything else, I have no reason to believe she is having sex yet. I hope I'm right because kids sure are growing up fast these days.

[Jbb]

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[Run_em_Hard]

Well since I am one of the young'ns on here I feel obligated to chime in...As time goes by I have noticed that kids keep having sex younger and younger. 15 is probably a little early, 16 would have to be they average age. Its not bad like some people think, as long as its safe. He needs to get her on Birth Control and offer to buy some condoms if she feels stupid doing so herself. At that age you can't rely to well on the boy for that. The most important thing is to talk to her like an adult. That is what she would really want. Talk to her about the consequences, but never get to the preaching stage. He won't be able to stop it...just a fact. He can either talk to her about it and be open to it or she will just lie and do it behind his back, unsafe. One thing that he can do is make it a little more difficult, tell her that its not allowed in his house, that they have to work for it like he did(rent a hotel, backseat). Which brings up another point, she needs to make the boy earn the sex, not just give it to him for the hell of it. That makes it a little better to find the better guys. :cool: :cool:

[Kim Hanson]

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Ya it's pretty much the same here, chit you could freeze the .......( . )( . )'s.......off of a seal right now...... :cool: :p

[Cole Trickle]

I'd kill them both.
This still seems like the easiest recomendation and the least amount of work.
I was a pain in the ass but my parents would trade me 10X over for what they had to go through with my younger sister. :220v:
<------- hoping for Boys! :idea:

[Jbb]

Which brings up another point, she needs to make the boy earn the sex, not just give it to him for the hell of it. That makes it a little better to find the better guys. :cool: :cool:
Brown makes all his.."lady friends"...even the inflatable ones ...call him ..."Turbo".... :p

[lucky]

I have always told my 16 year old daughter that if she is going to have sex, to talk to me first so she could at least be safe about it. I ask her about once a month about it and since she tells me everything else, I have no reason to believe she is having sex yet. I hope I'm right because kids sure are growing up fast these days.
Soooooooooooooooooooooooo ?????? Are you having sex ????? Hey topless -- "how you doin'nnn " :rolleyes:

[wsuwrhr]

EVERYBODY has sex, approach the situation realistically.
If the guy didn't force himself on her, they are equally at fault. Who's house were they at, or where were they?
Unless your friend was a virgin at marriage, don't be all "holier than thou", he was fukin someone ELSE'S daughter.
Brian

[topless]

Soooooooooooooooooooooooo ?????? Are you having sex ????? Hey topless -- "how you doin'nnn " :rolleyes:Where's your horse head? :crossx:

[LAFD]

[QUOTE=Run_em_Hard] One thing that he can do is make it a little more difficult, tell her that its not allowed in his house, that they have to work for it like he did(rent a hotel, backseat).
i would think this would be the opposite do it at the house just dont caught or heard. who would want the under aged daughter at hotels and back seats of cars having sex i dont think so. just be up front and cool about it and lay down some rules. it was bound to happen.

[BarryMac]

<------- hoping for Boys! :idea:
With boys you only have to worry about one dick, with girls you have to worry about them all.
<----------Father to 3 Young ladies, thought about killing myself more then a few times... :D

[THOR]

I have a 2 year old daughter and worry about this all the time. I would have a serious talk with her and even a more serious talk with the BF. There is absolutely no need for a teenager to have sex. It really isnt that big of deal. Wait, cuz if you get prego, then :mad:

[Jbb]

Where's your horse head? :crossx:
lol...Topper..this thing rocks!
http://www.riverratlife.net/images/tpls/ali.gif

[WaterBox]

Well since I am one of the young'ns on here I feel obligated to chime in...As time goes by I have noticed that kids keep having sex younger and younger. 15 is probably a little early, 16 would have to be they average age. Its not bad like some people think, as long as its safe. He needs to get her on Birth Control and offer to buy some condoms if she feels stupid doing so herself. At that age you can't rely to well on the boy for that. The most important thing is to talk to her like an adult. That is what she would really want. Talk to her about the consequences, but never get to the preaching stage. He won't be able to stop it...just a fact. He can either talk to her about it and be open to it or she will just lie and do it behind his back, unsafe One thing that he can do is make it a little more difficult, tell her that its not allowed in his house, that they have to work for it like he did(rent a hotel, backseat). Which brings up another point, she needs to make the boy earn the sex, not just give it to him for the hell of it. That makes it a little better to find the better guys. :cool: :cool:
Sounds like a first lesson in Prostitution to me!! :hammerhea

[lucky]

I have a 2 year old daughter and worry about this all the time. I would have a serious talk with her and even a more serious talk with the BF. There is absolutely no need for a teenager to have sex. It really isnt that big of deal. Wait, cuz if you get prego, then :mad:
two is a little extream - lol at age 4 to six they compare "tools"

[Run_em_Hard]

Sounds like a first lesson in Prostitution to me!! :hammerhea
Well I guess that I don't need to tell you what I do for a living...:cool:

[boater72]

I have always told my 16 year old daughter that if she is going to have sex, to talk to me first so she could at least be safe about it. I ask her about once a month about it and since she tells me everything else, I have no reason to believe she is having sex yet. I hope I'm right because kids sure are growing up fast these days.
1. Have to aggree. Have a 14 year old daughter and 11 year old son. We keep everything in the open drug, sex etc. You have to talk to them and know whats up. I feel I am lucky as we are pretty tight in our family.
Thought of:
2.HAVE A WORD WITH THE BOYFRIEND ... HEY KID , JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW WHAT EVER YOU DO TO MY DAUGHTER , I Will DO TO YOU ..... SHOULD END IT RIGHT THERE !!!!
3.Magic34 I'd kill them both.
Funny though as I was thinking about this today and then read this thread. I know what I was trhinking when I was a teen. The girl next door !

[chub]

WOW Thanks for all the replies. I have let my buddy read this and he is appreciative also.

[wsuwrhr]

I There is absolutely no need for a teenager to have sex. It really isnt that big of deal. Wait, cuz if you get prego, then :mad:
So you were 20 when you first had sex? Or did an adult tell you the same thing, and YOU thought they were full of shit as well.
Just curious.
Brian

[Ivan Dan]

<------- hoping for Boys! :idea:
AMEN to this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D

[WaterBox]

Well I guess that I don't need to tell you what I do for a living...:cool:
:idea: Ok I'll bite, What do you do for a living?? :) Another way to look at it, Maybe he's making her earn it! :rollside:

[FreshTracks]

Tell him you asked for the professional opinion of the ***boat crowd..... a bunch of perverted gawkers(i'm gulity :smile: ) and chicks who wear string and call it a bathing suit.
Tell him right now is the "good old days", in a few years she'll be on Spring Break in Havasu..............

[OGShocker]

AMEN to this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D
I thank God everyday that we have a son.
______________________
Chub;
One of the best lines I ever heard was from a friend of ours...
"Young man, I am not sure if you are or are planing to have sex with my little girl. I just thought you should know, I am NOT afraid of going back to prison". :D The li'l focker couldn't run away from the house fast enough... :crossx:
Safe sex practices are the most important thing your friend can talk about with his little girl and the boyfriend. I suggest you have him clean his weapons during the conversation, just to lower the tension in the room.:D

[topless]

Safe sex practices are the most important thing your friend can talk about with his little girl and the boyfriend. I suggest you have him clean his weapons during the conversation, just to lower the tension in the room.:DLMAO!!! Now thats the best advise so far!

[OGShocker]

LMAO!!! Now thats the best advise so far!
I thought of you when I typed it. :devil: :2purples: :wink:

[bohica]

Next time the boy wants to go out with the daughter, have you buddy invite the kid in, hand him a cup, a porno mag. and tell him to go beat off 5 or 6 times and fill the cup, Hopefully he'll be a limp noodle when he's done. Kid won't be able to get it up even if he wants to. :2purples:

[topless]

I thought of you when I typed it. :devil: :2purples: :wink:
Fix your sig to quote the right person. OOppps did I say that outloud?

[YeLLowBoaT]

Make sure to tell her about the danger of unportected sexs (STDS) 1 out of every 6 ppl in the US has one that a pill or a shot won't make it goaway ( IE herbys) Then show her how to use a condom correctly.
Make sure you hand him a shell of 00 buck shot on the way out the door :crossx:

[wsuwrhr]

Then show her how to use a condom correctly.
:
Well aren't you a sicko
:) :) :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
Brian

[OGShocker]

Fix your sig to quote the right person. OOppps did I say that outloud?
Like I need people viewing my PM list. No thanks!:D

[Run_em_Hard]

:idea: Ok I'll bite, What do you do for a living?? :) Another way to look at it, Maybe he's making her earn it! :rollside:
I was just kiddin about that... :cool: . I don't do anything too exciting. And mabey he is, we should get that girl on here and we could all consult!

[THOR]

So you were 20 when you first had sex? Or did an adult tell you the same thing, and YOU thought they were full of shit as well.
Just curious.
Brian
No, I didnt think my parents were full of shit. And, I was not 20, but I still dont want my kids having sex despite your condescending tone.

[topless]

Like I need people viewing my PM list. No thanks!:DWhy not? Everyone knows mine for some unexplained reason.

[cxr133]

i did not read all the posts here...
but definitely have him talk to her about safe sex.... one of my sons friends is 15 years old and she is like 8 months pregnant.. and she didnt tell her mom until like 2-3 weeks ago!!! :220v:

[MagicMtnDan]

What I wonder about is why is your friend's daughter having more sex than many here on this forum? :D Just kidding.
I hope he'll talk to her and show her love and guidance. Without the love nothing he says will sink in.

[lucky]

What I wonder about is why is your friend's daughter having more sex than many here on this forum? :D Just kidding.
I hope he'll talk to her and show her love and guidance. Without the love nothing he says will sink in.
What are u doing on this thread , There are no pictures lmao -- ( ps your my hero )

[OGShocker]

Chub,
I found this report (PDF) VERY interesting.
CDC Report (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr48/nvs48_16.pdf)

[chub]

I was just kiddin about that... :cool: . I don't do anything too exciting. And mabey he is, we should get that girl on here and we could all consult!
Is there supposed to be humor here or am I misunderstanding this?
I found this report (PDF) VERY interesting.
OGShocker, Thanks!

[spectratoad]

As most others that I read said. Tell him to get her BC, be understanding and don't fly off the handle. I know my parents forbid me to see one of my old girlfriends. It made me want to be with her more. Not sure how I would react in this situation though. :cry:
I have two boys so I only have to penis' to worry about. Guys with daughters have millions to worry about. :cool:

[hoolign]

Chub.. tell your bud to club the kids chub next time he's over ... with a clubbed chub he won't be climbing on the chick.
hope this helps!

[Desert Rat]

We have enough problems up here in the desert, DON'T bring him up here!!!!! :p Take him for a boat ride to Catalina!

[Sean@magic]

Next time the boy wants to go out with the daughter, have you buddy invite the kid in, hand him a cup, a porno mag. and tell him to go beat off 5 or 6 times and fill the cup, Hopefully he'll be a limp noodle when he's done. Kid won't be able to get it up even if he wants to. :2purples:
LOL.......... That's the funniest thing i've heard in a while.

[chub]

Chub.. tell your bud to club the kids chub next time he's over ... with a clubbed chub he won't be climbing on the chick.
hope this helps!
Another classic reply!

[Wild Horses]

The best thing you can do for your kids is give them knowledge! :idea:
Then you have to release them into the real world and hope they make intelligent choices. :)

[dmontzsta]

chubs, how did he find out?
Why dont we take the kid out skiing, but we will tie the rope around him and give him the ride of his life. :)

[chub]

LOL.......... That's the funniest thing i've heard in a while.
bohica is one of my best friends. We've been planning this one for a long time as he has two girls!

[slink]

chubs, how did he find out?
Why dont we take the kid out skiing, but we will tie the rope around him and give him the ride of his life. :)
Better yet, give him a hunting trip w/ Cheney.

[ThongMagnet]

Be hopeful this is only a boyfriend and not a career move. :idea:

[chub]

chubs, how did he find out?
Why dont we take the kid out skiing, but we will tie the rope around him and give him the ride of his life. :)
D howz the family?
He straight up asked the BF and the kid was honest about it. Took some courage on the kids part. My buddy said it was all he could do to walk away and not rip his head off and Sit down his neck.
They live in the desert and will be going for a long ride to talk!

[HighRoller]

I think condoning the behavior by handing out condoms and pills is the sign of weak parents. You have to confront the problem head on and not be afraid of the possible consequences. If your daughter was in a car headed for a brick wall, what would you do? Try to stop the car, or help her put on her seatbelt???

[Sean@magic]

bohica is one of my best friends. We've been planning this one for a long time as he has two girls!
That's classic, if he can't get it up.... there will be no sex. LMAO!!!!

[Scream]

His 15 year old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend yesterday. He is devastated. I don't know what to say to him?
A wise (maybe not) friend told me once. "It's better to have sons than daughters...with son's you only have one dick to worry about"
:sqeyes:
I knew a family that was very much into thier children. This same scenario happened to them. They also had younger son. The daughter was about 15 when she had her first kid. The parents locked her up and wouldn't let her arround the boy. She resented them from that time on and had no real clue why they would be mad, after all she was in Love...yea right.
After she ran away with her baby several times, they gave up and let her go to live with her boyfriend. He lived with his family in a very small house, and the girls parents believed that when she had to take care of the child, sleep on the couch (because that's how small this house was) and deal with all the trappings of living with your inlaws, she'd come to her senses...
The new mother in Law took the baby as her own, gave the girl and her son the second bedroom, displacing God knows who, won't let this girl even help with the dishes...it's turned out to be a disaster for the parents of the girl.
To over compensate, they gave thier younger son free reign. He's not a very managable young man and has a multitude of issues related to his unfettered upbringing...
Is there a moral to this story? DON'T OVER REACT
This is what I'd do. Sit her, her boyfriend, and his parents down and discuss it like adults. Making sure everyone is on the same page and understands what the boundries and expectations are, especially in the event that the girl become pregnant...
Give your friend a pat on the back and some moral support. I can only think it's got to be one of the biggest shocks a father can get in life...
Scream

[ROZ]

I dread the day I have to deal with this...

[slink]

Lot of great responses and suggestions on here. For everyone you has replied "I'm glad I have a son", here is some food for thought........My primary case load is child abuse/sexual assualts. Right know I have 10 open cases involving 18yr + males having sexual relationships (From as simple as "petting" to intercourse) with minor (under 18) girls. Even if the girls consent (minor can't legally) the boys are done once it reaches LE's hands. Usually it's from parents or the girl themselves when the guy "cheats" on her, as how it gets to me. These cases all go the the DA and 99.9% of the time get filed. I have young men everyday coming into my office to register as sex offenders (for life) for making a mistake.
I'm not hear to preach.....just want all you guys to have sit downs with your boys and teach them that even when a girl is willing, if she is -18, don't take the bait. I know it ain't fair but I hate seeing these boys get labled for life.
BTW, you don't even want to know what is going on in your kids high schools. Just a hint: If you kids have cell phone camera's, you might check them.

[dmontzsta]

D howz the family?
He straight up asked the BF and the kid was honest about it. Took some courage on the kids part. My buddy said it was all he could do to walk away and not rip his head off and Sit down his neck.
They live in the desert and will be going for a long ride to talk!
They are good bro, you ready for the river? I hope to hang with you guys again, it was fun last time. :)
I think you should go with your buddy, for "the talk" you know...just as support and all.
:)

[UnionJack]

I have a 7 week old and I already worry about that, I think all you can hope for is that you raise them right and they are smart about it.
Remember when you a a boy you only have to worry about one dick and when you have a girl you have to worry about every Dick.

[Cole Trickle]

I think the key to raising girls is staying busy.
I will be with my family every weekend.Summertime means family time on the boat and Winter means family time in the desert.(No boyfriends allowed)
My daughter will grow up with me in the garage and I will do all I can to keep her away from Dance and cheerleading camp.
I also have debated having lojack installed at a very early age. :idea:

[topless]

I think condoning the behavior by handing out condoms and pills is the sign of weak parents. You have to confront the problem head on and not be afraid of the possible consequences. If your daughter was in a car headed for a brick wall, what would you do? Try to stop the car, or help her put on her seatbelt???OK Mr. Expert on the subject, just how would you handle the situation and not have your daughter rebel?

[cxr133]

Are CHASITY BELTS illegal???

[hoolign]

Another classic reply!
My bad! :rollside:

[Parker Dreamin]

I think condoning the behavior by handing out condoms and pills is the sign of weak parents. You have to confront the problem head on and not be afraid of the possible consequences. If your daughter was in a car headed for a brick wall, what would you do? Try to stop the car, or help her put on her seatbelt???
Are you sure you knew what you were typing when you did this ?

[wsuwrhr]

Come to think of it, my father in law is still mad at me for having sex with his daughter.
No man stands a chance.....damned if you do, and damned if you don't.
Brian

[wsuwrhr]

No, I didnt think my parents were full of shit. And, I was not 20, but I still dont want my kids having sex despite your condescending tone.
<sarcasm>I wasn't aware you could hear "tone" on a computer</sarcasm>
I understand not "wanting" them to, but what about reality?
BTW I was 17-18 when I first "did" it, and IMO I was about two years late.
Brian

[wsuwrhr]

No, I didnt think my parents were full of shit. And, I was not 20, but I still dont want my kids having sex despite your condescending tone.
BTW sir,
Despite you reading into my post.
I stated "an adult", not "parents."
Brian

[Her454]

BTW sir,
Despite you reading into my post.
I stated "an adult", not "parents."
Brian
Brian, please quit stirring shit on ***boat. It is a family oriented board and you need to take your sarcasm and drama elsewhere.
Yours truly,
:rollside: :rollside:

[DUNDUN]

im 17.. and i would die if i had a kid down the road that was doing the things ive done.. and im a good kid!. but my advice would be a talk, just a talk, no restriction, restriction would make them more defiant and more likely to do it. but you need to not let her off the hook either. put her on the pill, warn her of some consequences.. my warning was "YOU, were even a broken condom baby". thats scary shit. haha. good luck.
brandon.

[wsuwrhr]

Brian, please quit stirring shit on ***boat. It is a family oriented board and you need to take your sarcasm and drama elsewhere.
Yours truly,
:rollside: :rollside:
Hey now....
Yes Maam.
Me stir shit? s' aint happenin.
haha
I was just stating facts, and opinions. Just like everyone else.
Brian

[wsuwrhr]

my warning was "YOU, were even a broken condom baby". thats scary shit. haha. good luck.
brandon.
Nice.
Brian

[dmontzsta]

<sarcasm>I wasn't aware you could hear "tone" on a computer</sarcasm>
I understand not "wanting" them to, but what about reality?
BTW I was 17-18 when I first "did" it, and IMO I was about two years late.
Brian
I was 14-15 and boy was it good.
Funny how it seems "ok" for the boy, but if I had a daughter I would move far, far away.
Kids are starting younger and younger. My son is in 1st grade and has a "girlfriend" he brought her a "I Love You" valentines day card and he is sort of serious. I told him some stuff about it too, I remember girls were gross in 1st grade.

[wsuwrhr]

No, I didnt think my parents were full of shit. And, I was not 20, but I still dont want my kids having sex despite your condescending tone.
My parents were married in '-- and I was born 4 months later. Probably around 6th grade, when we had sex ed, that I figured something was going on. Never said a thing until I got "the talk." I really liked the neighbor girl.
:crossx: :crossx:
The talk I got, was based on fact, not fiction. They were already on the hook to try and tell me that, "WE never did it before we got married." For the most part, I listened to my parents.
I was a good kid, I still am a good kid for that matter. My father put the fear of God into me at a young age. "I brought you into this world, and I'm not asking anyone if I have to take you out."
As an ADULT, sometimes my words are STILL, Yes Mom, Yes Dad.
Of course, Yes Dear. haha
Some shit never changes.
So don't get all chesty-poppy-outie Sir. I didn't attack you.
We are all friends here.
Brian

[wsuwrhr]

I was 14-15 and boy was it good.
Like I said. WAY overdue.
If I knew then what I know now, things would have been MUCH different.
Homie had no GAME.
Now I am OLD.
Brian

[Jordy]

We are all friends here.
Kind of optimistic aren't ya???? There are a few on here that we don't like as a group. :idea: :D

[wsuwrhr]

Kind of optomistic aren't ya???? There are a few on here that we don't like as a group. :idea: :D
Yea maybe I am....
Brian

[wsuwrhr]

Kind of optomistic aren't ya???? There are a few on here that we don't like as a group. :idea: :D
You know Jordy,
I don't think I like your innuendo very much......
Brian

[hoolign]

I think the issue that everyone here is missing is.."support" as in educate your kids because you care about them, ..teach them about sex..the reprocussions and the means to prevent it..but most important..let them know that no matter what happens "you are there for them" we had our kid when she was 16 and I was 18 ...He's my bud, we snowboard, quad,and ( yes Canuck) he' is starting to be able to pin the ol man :D

[Mandelon]

Lot of great responses and suggestions on here. For everyone you has replied "I'm glad I have a son", here is some food for thought........My primary case load is child abuse/sexual assualts. Right know I have 10 open cases involving 18yr + males having sexual relationships (From as simple as "petting" to intercourse) with minor (under 18) girls. Even if the girls consent (minor can't legally) the boys are done once it reaches LE's hands. Usually it's from parents or the girl themselves when the guy "cheats" on her, as how it gets to me. These cases all go the the DA and 99.9% of the time get filed. I have young men everyday coming into my office to register as sex offenders (for life) for making a mistake.
I'm not hear to preach.....just want all you guys to have sit downs with your boys and teach them that even when a girl is willing, if she is -18, don't take the bait. I know it ain't fair but I hate seeing these boys get labled for life.
BTW, you don't even want to know what is going on in your kids high schools. Just a hint: If you kids have cell phone camera's, you might check them.
I heard this does not apply if one lives in Kingman.... :rolleyes:

[THOR]

Kind of optomistic aren't ya???? There are a few on here that we don't like as a group. :idea: :D
Jordy sux.

[THOR]

My parents were married in '-- and I was born 4 months later. Probably around 6th grade, when we had sex ed, that I figured something was going on. Never said a thing until I got "the talk." I really liked the neighbor girl.
:crossx: :crossx:
The talk I got, was based on fact, not fiction. They were already on the hook to try and tell me that, "WE never did it before we got married." For the most part, I listened to my parents.
I was a good kid, I still am a good kid for that matter. My father put the fear of God into me at a young age. "I brought you into this world, and I'm not asking anyone if I have to take you out."
As an ADULT, sometimes my words are STILL, Yes Mom, Yes Dad.
Of course, Yes Dear. haha
Some shit never changes.
So don't get all chesty-poppy-outie Sir. I didn't attack you.
We are all friends here.
Brian
I know you didnt attack, I just dont want my kids to ever have sex. Ever.

[wsuwrhr]

I know you didnt attack, I just dont want my kids to ever have sex. Ever.
Laughs, well then. There is that....
Like I said, I still think my father-in-law hates me.
Brian

[PlyaPlya22]

I know you didnt attack, I just dont want my kids to ever have sex. Ever.
I hear you there THOR!!! :mad:

[AltarGirl]

I know you didnt attack, I just dont want my kids to ever have sex. Ever.
Wow, EVER!! :crossx: :crossx:
I can understand all these daddies being a little upset, but it was said earlier here that it's going to happen sooner or later & try to be understanding & not just angry.
That's just my opinion of course.... :) :)

[JetBoatRich]

Having a 16 year old daughter :cry: this subject touchs close to home :cry:
Open Communications
understand the situation
express your concern
ask her opinion
Cleaning the Guns is good

[SummitKarl]

CHUB
have your friend watch this
ketchupeffect (http://www.ketchupeffect.com/teaser.htm)

[mike37]

CHUB
have your friend watch this
ketchupeffect (http://www.ketchupeffect.com/teaser.htm)
LOL funny

[chub]

My bad! :rollside:
No worriies Hooli! I thought that chit was funny! :)
Thanks to all and I hope maybe this thead has helped others as it has me.
Not bad for the first thread I've ever started! :boxed:
Continue!

[Magic34]

I think the key to raising girls is staying busy.
I will be with my family every weekend.Summertime means family time on the boat and Winter means family time in the desert.(No boyfriends allowed)
My daughter will grow up with me in the garage and I will do all I can to keep her away from Dance and cheerleading camp.
I also have debated having lojack installed at a very early age. :idea:
Don't forget about that band camp stuff, they even made a movie about it.
I was a little quick to say I would kill them both.
Here is how I see it working. Our daughter, now 22 months old, will be raised going to church and have a huge respect for god. Actually a little fear would be good. Hopefully that helps keep the activity to zero.
Next, I remember when I was 16, having a car was the most important thing in my life. We'll she will get a nice car IF certain things happen. Good grades, no sex, etc. Keeping the car will also go on these terms as well.
It would be a really nice car, so she will have a lot to lose on that end.
LoJack.... we are 14 years away from when she gets a car...... There will be many, many more technology advances that will enable me to have a hidden camera and some killer GPS locating devices that can let me know exactly what is going on in that car or where it has been and why. I plan on installing that in her car before she gets it. She will never know.
She wants her college paid for, no sex..... a new car, no sex....
Does it feel a little evil? Yes, actually a lot, but it does not matter. If all of that fails, then I start the killing!!!

[wsuwrhr]

Imagine having a 35 year old daughter still living with you. How sweet.
You people are some sick focks.
You wanted all the fun, all for yourselves,
Brian
:argue: :argue: :argue: :) :)
Don't forget about that band camp stuff, they even made a movie about it.
I was a little quick to say I would kill them both.
Here is how I see it working. Our daughter, now 22 months old, will be raised going to church and have a huge respect for god. Actually a little fear would be good. Hopefully that helps keep the activity to zero.
Next, I remember when I was 16, having a car was the most important thing in my life. We'll she will get a nice car IF certain things happen. Good grades, no sex, etc. Keeping the car will also go on these terms as well.
It would be a really nice car, so she will have a lot to lose on that end.
LoJack.... we are 14 years away from when she gets a car...... There will be many, many more technology advances that will enable me to have a hidden camera and some killer GPS locating devices that can let me know exactly what is going on in that car or where it has been and why. I plan on installing that in her car before she gets it. She will never know.
She wants her college paid for, no sex..... a new car, no sex....
Does it feel a little evil? Yes, actually a lot, but it does not matter. If all of that fails, then I start the killing!!!

[uclahater]

Laughs, well then. There is that....
Like I said, I still think my father-in-law hates me.
Brian
Brian
do you have any kids?

[wsuwrhr]

Brian
do you have any kids?
That is a dumb question, since you know the answer sir.
But for everyone else.....
Not yet,
But when I do, I will let them live their lives with guidance.
Controlling freaks.
:) :)
Brian

[wsuwrhr]

Brian
do you have any kids?
That theory is so beat,
that poor horse corpse has rotten to sunbleached white already.
Brian

[uclahater]

That is a dumb question, since you know the answer sir.
But for everyone else.....
Not yet,
But when I do, I will let them live their lives with guidance.
Controlling freaks.
:) :)
Brian
When you have a kid all of your thinking changes :idea:
So since you felt you should have been active at 14 or 15 does this meen your going to teach your kids that so they dont miss out?

[uclahater]

That theory is so beat,
that poor horse corpse has rotten to sunbleached white already.
Brian
So your saying you can give great advise without experience :rolleyes:

[wsuwrhr]

So your saying you can give great advise without experience :rolleyes:
that is silly.
BTW it's "you're" not "your" :) :) :)
First, the last time I checked, I am still told this is a free country, as people around the world are defending OUR freedoms, AND no, I didn't serve my country, but you can bet if someone came to our soil, you can be rest assured I will be in the trenches.
I am posting my opinion, as well as considering others' opinions. The guy posted asking for advise/opinions, so I am giving mine. Your welcome, Mr. tall angry guy.
The best part about it is, since I DON'T have kids, I feel I can post with a clear mind, focusing on facts, not hype and fear of the unknown.
I am refering to THE 15 year old, basically a young adult here in question,
a young adult that should have already had their upbringing instilled.
If you want to get down to it,
I'm saying SOME of you are hippocrites, and you sir are trying to take this to a whole 'nother level.
IMHO,
The only person who can stand on the box, are the parents who were virgins on their wedding night, and the parents who have only had sex with their spouse.
IMHO,
Some of you seem to be trying make up for your mistakes in your own lives.
Brian

[topless]

After reading through this thread yesterday, I had another talk with my 16 yr old daughter. She is a good kid except for the attitude she obviously doesn't get from me. Anyway, it's great to know that when you just talk and not lecture on a poduim, they listen and they also talk to you. I found out that my suspicions were correct. SHE IS STILL A VIRGIN. She did however tell me which friends of hers are not virgins and which ones are considered sluts, which ones are on the pill, etc...etc... It is a great comfort to know that if and when she thinks about or wants to have sex, she can talk to me first. She promises she will because she also knows I'm not going to kill her for it. This isn't to say I'm not going to try to talk her out of it but at the same time I'm glad she won't be doing something behind my back that I have to find out by having a grandkid. YIKES! Thank God she has a good head on her shoulders and knows that this is something you can never take back. I'm blessed.
As for you Brian, tell Mopar to stop winking at me. :crossx:

[wsuwrhr]

So since you felt you should have been active at 14 or 15 does this meen your going to teach your kids that so they dont miss out?
And what age were you at sir?
More questionable accusations....
Brian

[Cole Trickle]

Don't forget about that band camp stuff, they even made a movie about it.
I was a little quick to say I would kill them both.
Here is how I see it working. Our daughter, now 22 months old, will be raised going to church and have a huge respect for god. Actually a little fear would be good. Hopefully that helps keep the activity to zero.
Next, I remember when I was 16, having a car was the most important thing in my life. We'll she will get a nice car IF certain things happen. Good grades, no sex, etc. Keeping the car will also go on these terms as well.
It would be a really nice car, so she will have a lot to lose on that end.
LoJack.... we are 14 years away from when she gets a car...... There will be many, many more technology advances that will enable me to have a hidden camera and some killer GPS locating devices that can let me know exactly what is going on in that car or where it has been and why. I plan on installing that in her car before she gets it. She will never know.
She wants her college paid for, no sex..... a new car, no sex....
Does it feel a little evil? Yes, actually a lot, but it does not matter. If all of that fails, then I start the killing!!!
I hope we are still buddies in 14 years so I can see how your plan works out.;)
Kids have this weird issue with doing the opposite of what the parents wish. Thinking back I was told that I could have any vehicle I wanted if I got straight A's and a Toyota 4 runner if I carried a 3.0 throuout High School. after the first semester where I pulled a 2.7 GPA and my dad told me there goes your car (This was also in the middle of my parents getting divorced). Needless to say I was grounded because of grades my first 2 years of High School and was hardly able to leave the house.(I was a good kid and never drank I eventually moved out and went to live with my mom because it got to the point where the do it my way or the highway thing didn't work. ( After he got up in my face one day I knew that either I was going to hurt him or I needed to leave)
I ended up getting a job at 15 buying my own beater car and finished HS with decent grades.(I didn't speak to my father for 4 years)
My dad and I are great friends and spend alot of time together and he still says to this date that he wished he would have handled me different growing up.(I was a good kid and didn't get into trouble)
Moral of the story is the more you push the more kids seem to push back.I think it needs to be a happy medium with what you give and what you exspose them too.
My kid sister was/is a way bigger handful then I was growing up and she is a runner.(You try and diipline her and she tells you to F-off and leaves..she has walked away from cars, vacations and many other things without batting an eye)
The religion thing could work. I went to High school with two twin girls that were very attractive. As soon as the parents found out they were having twin daughters thay became Mormons.It worked on the twins but there 3rd daughter who was model beautiful (10+) ended up rebeling and becoming the town bicycle. :cry:

[uclahater]

And what age were you at sir?
More questionable accusations....
Brian
Brian
I did alot of horrible things as a teenager :idea: As a parent I try and take my experiences, and help to keep my kids from makeing the same mistakes I did. :idea: :idea:

[cxr133]

After reading through this thread yesterday, I had another talk with my 16 yr old daughter. She is a good kid except for the attitude she obviously doesn't get from me. Anyway, it's great to know that when you just talk and not lecture on a poduim, they listen and they also talk to you. I found out that my suspicions were correct. SHE IS STILL A VIRGIN. She did however tell me which friends of hers are not virgins and which ones are considered sluts, which ones are on the pill, etc...etc... It is a great comfort to know that if and when she thinks about or wants to have sex, she can talk to me first. She promises she will because she also knows I'm not going to kill her for it. This isn't to say I'm not going to try to talk her out of it but at the same time I'm glad she won't be doing something behind my back that I have to find out by having a grandkid. YIKES! Thank God she has a good head on her shoulders and knows that this is something you can never take back. I'm blessed.
As for you Brian, tell Mopar to stop winking at me. :crossx:
SO the scenario goes like this:
Friday Night
daughter: ok mom im going out tonight with some friends to the movies and to hang out out my girlfriends house after. BTW so and so is going to be there and were probably gonna have crazy mad sex for hours in all kinda different positions for the first time if thats ok w/ you
MOMS response: ???????
DADS respone: OH HELL NO.. your grounded till your 30

[DAVEO]

I think the thing to remember is that at 15 he was more than likely trying to do the same thing. There for what he needs to do is explain to his daughter how a young boy feels and thinks, and what he is useing her for and that what she will get out of it is nothing. Next he needs to talk to her about protection and stuff. I also have a daughter and I can honestly say that everything I just said will probably be the farthest thing from my mind when I find out that my baby girl is haveing sex. So maybe someone here can redirect me to this thread when I post how I am going to kill the kid who is haveing sex with my daughter in a few years. Thanks in advance for helping me stay out of jail!
Dont worry I will. Then we will go beat his ass.

[wsuwrhr]

Brian
I did alot of horrible things as a teenager :idea: As a parent I try and take my experiences, and help to keep my kids from makeing the same mistakes I did. :idea: :idea:
IMHO,
As long as you don't confuse the two, guidance and trying to make up for your mistakes, it's all good.
Now nothing wrong with guidance, and that is exactly what I was talking about.
Getting militant about it will do nothing except exactly what you DON'T want to happen.
In MY experience, few parents tell their kids to "go out and do whatever they want."
My parents raised me right, they made mistakes, as well as I. But they instilled values in me that I still hold today.
So be good to your kids, don't over-protect, let them make the right choices, hopefully along the way, they make a few bad choices that don't hurt too bad. They see that their parents knew what they were talking about.
My .02
brian

[topless]

SO the scenario goes like this:
Friday Night
daughter: ok mom im going out tonight with some friends to the movies and to hang out out my girlfriends house after. BTW so and so is going to be there and were probably gonna have crazy mad sex for hours in all kinda different positions for the first time if thats ok w/ you
MOMS response: ???????
DADS respone: OH HELL NO.. your grounded till your 30So is that what your daughter did? :yuk:

[Mrs. HOOTER SLED]

I would definitly talk to her with respect........You may not like what she is doing..............but as everyone has said "It's inevitable (sp)"
I am glad in a sense that I have boys........just like the rest of you that do......but in the same breath I'm just as scared....................
Yes, they can not get pregnant BUT they can make babys and will be a dad no matter how you look at it!!!!! Just because it's not in their belly doesn't mean the child isn't or won't be around!!!!! What about those girls that the parents kick out because of this??????? Are you just going to let her wander the streets ( maybe with your son in tote??) I know alot of you might be saying " She's not my responsibliity......" But in a way she is if your son is too young or young minded to be there ........I would be letting her move in at least till sh*t got straight!!!!! Maybe that's just the mom in me???? I don't know???? But, I will be very open with my boys. I already tell my 11yr old to ask me anything............I may not like it, but I'd rather be the one giving the right info then him getting crap from God only knows!!!!!!
So treat her like an adult if she is going to be doing adult like things.........maybe you could talk to the boy and definitly a talk with his parents wouldn't hurt..........maybe they will just be finding out also!!!!!

[cxr133]

So is that what your daughter did? :yuk:
hey im just seeing what the scenario would be like when she does come to tell you she i ready for sex..... thats why i put ??? for the mom.... your so open and caring and loving what are you gonna say???
my baby is still a baby... so one day we will see!!!

[topless]

hey im just seeing what the scenario would be like when she does come to tell you she i ready for sex..... thats why i put ??? for the mom.... your so open and caring and loving what are you gonna say???
my baby is still a baby... so one day we will see!!!I haven't had to cross that bridge but I do know for a fact she's not going to come and tell me she's going to go have wild sex at a friends house. She will probably ask alot of questions first. I think I've scared her already by telling her she'll have to go to the gynocologist. I explained what they would do and it would be an old fat gross man doing it. Thats what she's afraid of.

[cxr133]

I haven't had to cross that bridge but I do know for a fact she's not going to come and tell me she's going to go have wild sex at a friends house. She will probably ask alot of questions first. I think I've scared her already by telling her she'll have to go to the gynocologist. I explained what they would do and it would be an old fat gross man doing it. Thats what she's afraid of.
ok ok so i added a little drama.. but you know what i meant!!!
what do you say when she says me and so and so are ready to do it.. do what?? you know make love

[topless]

ok ok so i added a little drama.. but you know what i meant!!!
what do you say when she says me and so and so are ready to do it.. do what?? you know make loveI'll remind her first of the old fat gynocalogist and tell her her I'll make her an appointement. No seriously, I'll talk to her calmly, let her know I don't approve but if she's going to, she's going to so I'd rather her be safe. Then I'll go get drunk and cry. :cry:

[lucky]

remeber this fun thread
:D

[topless]

HAVE A WORD WITH THE BOYFRIEND ... hEY KID , JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW WHAT EVER YOU DO TO MY DAUGHTER , i DO TO YOU ..... SHOULD END IT RIGHT THERE !!!!
:Now why did you have to gay this thread up?:jawdrop:

[460 jus getn it]

Now why did you have to gay this thread up?:jawdrop:
That answers that:D :D :D

[Biglue]

remeber this fun thread
:D
I don't see where you found it as fun. It was about hetereosexual sex. :D

[SHOTKALLIN]

let me know....I have a spot in the dessert where the hole is predug.:D

[Racey]

does the b/f parents know? if not than the dad can use that against him and make him do things for him like wash the truck or mow the lawn take out the trash. what no than im gunna tell you parents. hahaha.
Hahahah this is perfect, now you hold some cards.
Definatley need to talk to them about condoms and BC, getting pregnant can be one thing, catching something could be alot worse. It was bound to happen sooner or later anyway and throwing a hissy fit will only push the daughter away, Be realistic treat her like an adult and it will do you alot more good in the long run.

[centerhill condor]

you know it depends on what you want. I had a 14 year old gf when I was 17yoa she was a freak. the secret to success ( not having a baby) is taking hot baths. now you know!
fortunately, for me I don't have to make these decisons.
the columbians have a saying, "you can't straighten a tree after it is grown".
sex causes children! make note to self! duh!
have you not told your daughter this? or is this a surprise?
this set of circumstances is difficult no matter how educated or religous you have been! that's the hard part... believe me brother I feel your pain!

[EmpirE231]

I hope I have boys! :D
I should have my parents raise my kids... they did a good job on me!! never even had the sex talk or protection talks... some how it was subliminaly put in my mind though! didn't have sex til a little after 18 with my first serious girlfriend... and in highschool some chicks were litteraly trying to rip my pants of! .... the girls are the ones you have to watch out for! lol

[ratso]

Remembering my days and banging my 13 year old girlfriend at the time (a preacher's daughter), and also having a son and a bunch of nephews and their friends around over the years, I'll tell you, there are a lot of 13 year old and up little sluts running around... A LOT! They grow up real damn fast. I've heard of their stories... 3 somes, running trains, orgys, you name it, and this was with really young chicks... their parents would probably jump off a cliff if they really knew what their precious little daughters were doing. I've had a "colorful" sex life, as have quite a few of you, but the age they are doing this stuff at absolutely blows my mind.