Nope no drugs or abuse issues she barely drinks :hammer2: Like i said i have no problem with her as a mother but her job is at night and if i move i am concerend where my kids will be while she is at work
Nope no drugs or abuse issues she barely drinks :hammer2: Like i said i have no problem with her as a mother but her job is at night and if i move i am concerend where my kids will be while she is at work
well.. sounds like you either have to stay where you are.... or take the kids..
Nope no drugs or abuse issues she barely drinks :hammer2: Like i said i have no problem with her as a mother but her job is at night and if i move i am concerend where my kids will be while she is at work
The courts look at where the kids have lived during the previous 6 mos. and consider that their primary residence, so if you want to move the courts might not allow the children to move with you being the primary care giver. :idea:
The courts look at where the kids have lived during the previous 6 mos. and consider that their primary residence, so if you want to move the courts might not allow the children to move with you being the primary care giver. :idea:
Yep, they look for continuity and consistency for the kids...although it does seem to be less important from the mother's side.
Ok, last comment, as I've already exceeded my weekly post avg. on this...but I'm a little passionate when it comes to this.
It is way better to avoid court if at all possible...can't say that enough. Even if you feel like you're giving up a lot. Secondly, if you go to court, try to stay focused on the big picture, and don't get wrapped up on the small shiat. The court doesn't want to hear it.
Good luck.
Nope no drugs or abuse issues she barely drinks :hammer2: Like i said i have no problem with her as a mother but her job is at night and if i move i am concerend where my kids will be while she is at work
wow i missed this one - alex - sorry to hear that -man that blows -- she's a nice girl Now i feel bad about teasing you all the time about your wife - my apologize's
I am not trying to take them from her i would never do that i just would like them to live with me full time....
TIA
I cant speak from experience as I am still happily married, but
You should not be moving away from your kids, or getting custody and moving them away from their mother.
The kids are the only ones that matter here and they need the both of you in their lives as much as possible. The way I see it, you need to make whatever sacrifices necessary to make this happen. If that means not moving and giving up a better job then thats what you have to do.
The bottom line is that this was not the kids fault and they should not be the ones to suffer from it.
I'd have to agree with many here and stay out of court. It sounds like you have a dialoge between you and your ex so I'd suggest you take that route and try working it out with her mutually. If she's as concerned about her children as you, you two mature adults can work it out.
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Years ago I tried to win custody of my son, several $K's later all it did was cost me more for support to my tweaker ex.....then when he turned ten she shipped him off to me because her welfare bene's for him expired at 10 yrs of age. What a loser she ended up being. :burningm:
Boy was he ever happy and so was I.
MainEvent -
Whatever child care arrangements exist, may I suggest that you at least have joint legal/joint physical custody stipulated on the decree paperwork.
Some doctors, teachers, etc. are becoming wary of talking to "non-custodial" parents, even when they know darn well that you're the parent, and you're actively participating in your kids' lives.
Happened once to me. Felt good when I trumped their "ahem..well.." with a copy of the divorce decree...
I agree i really want to keep it out of the courts we can pretty much agree on most things but she does get on her hi horse sometimes and we get nowhere on the discussion and all we end up doing is arguing :argue: which i really dont wanna do we will see the outcomeThanks for your input
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