So I called my dad yesterday to check in because I have not talked to him in about a week. He proceeds to tell me that he had major surgery last week and has been layed up. I say WTF? He went in for routine hernia (sp?) surgery last tuesday, it was routine so he did not feel the need to tell me. He is very private, even with me. Well, after going in the Dr's discovered it was a lot worse then anticipated and had to go beyond into other organs. He was in the hospital for a few days. I am f*cking irate that my step-mother did not feel the need to call me and let me know. Is my father going to die and I am going to get an invitation in the mail to his funeral? How do I handle this? I want to let her know how I feel however I do not want to alienate her even more. I see my dad all year, I only see her about once a year....yeah she wins Step-mother of the year award for sure! They live 20 mintes from me.