Does Age Really Matter In A Relationship???

[RiverKitty]

Just Curious.....
What are the pros & cons of dating/marrying someone who is:
* The same age?
* 5 years older or younger?
* 10 years older or younger?
* 15 years older or younger?
* ...........etc.
The reason I'm asking is because I just recently met this guy who is 14 years older than me. We've dated a few times and he is (so far) a genuinely wonderful person. Problem is, the few times we've went out on a date, someone will ask or assume he is my father! Aaaargh! That is SO frustrating!!! Has anyone else ever been in a situation where age was a factor? If so, any advice would be greatly appreciated!

[SoCal_fun]

Originally posted by RiverKitty
Just Curious.....
What are the pros & cons of dating/marrying someone who is:
* The same age?
* 5 years older or younger?
* 10 years older or younger?
* 15 years older or younger?
* ...........etc.
The reason I'm asking is because I just recently met this guy who is 14 years older than me. We've dated a few times and he is (so far) a genuinely wonderful person. Problem is, the few times we've went out on a date, someone will ask or assume he is my father! Aaaargh! That is SO frustrating!!! Has anyone else ever been in a situation where age was to be a factor? If so, any advice would be greatly appreciated!
I mostly dated younger Women until I met my Wife. She is 5 years older than me (if you ever meet her, don't you dare tell her I told you this ).
Everything has worked out great for us, we've been married 13 years now! She looks younger than me though, maybe that helps the perception.
I'd say follow your heart. If he is the right one, don't let any of that other bs get to you.
Do what feels right!!

[LUVNLIFE]

I think RiverKitty bagged herself an 18 dockboy:eek!:

[v-drive]

RK, I will be 56 next month And my wife just turned 50. We have been married for 20 years and are inseperable. I was divorced at 30 and she at 25 and I might add that we had been neighbors for a few years. Five even ten years can work but 14 years is a stretch. You really need to search inside yourself on this one.
It doesn't sound to bad if you're 25 and he is 39 but what about when you are 40 and he is 54 and ready to retire. Do you have children? how do they feel, I know for us this was a huge hurdle and even today there are problems. following your heart is a wonderful thing to do just make sure it's what you want before you turn your heart loose. V-(old and wiser) drive

[framer1]

That's 40 and 54. That's still quite abit Is he young at heart or does he act like a old guy. The most important question does he have money

[v-drive]

Thanks framer, I apologize RK and ditto on the money.jK
v-drive

[No strESSEX]

My dad's 25 years older than his wife and they are extremely happy together. It goes back to "age" being a frame of mind.
RK, I say if it feels good, go for it.

[XTRM22]

THat's a tough call to make, it seems like older men 10-20 years is more acceptible then older women. When I was 22 I dated a lady that was 42 and had a great relationship for 6 monthes and a great friendship for years afterwards, but 20 years was just to big a spread for us. When I was 26 I dated a girl that was 5 years younger and that was a difficult relationship (felt like I was taking her on to raise). My wife and I have been togather now for 10 years, married 5, and she is 9 years older then me (but you'd never know to see us). You gotta do what makes you happy, I've always thought age was a poor guideline to base compatibility on.
Chuck

[JetBoatRich]

Originally posted by RiverKitty
Problem is, the few times we've went out on a date, someone will ask or assume he is my father!
Maybe not a problem at all, when you look so young like you

[diggler]

Hey RK, I dated a gal that was six years older than me.
My dad is married to a woman 20 years younger than him. They've been together 24 years. HOWEVER, now he's 62 and she's 42 and the age difference is really showing now.